You and your spouse did not divorce on good terms, and you may expect the same level of conflict while raising your shared children together. How should you protect your peace of mind moving forward?
Psychology Today explains common co-parenting conflicts and how to resolve them. Rather than wait for hard times, get proactive in resolving co-parenting difficulties.
Constant communication during a non-custodial time
Your ex may contact you or your children several times during non-custodial time. If so, consider using technology that lets you share your location and other custodial information with your ex without direct communication. You may also want to establish boundaries and only communicate with your ex about your shared children once a week for an hour.
Heated custody exchanges
Conflict may flare when you pick up or drop off your kids. It could help to engage in deep, intentional breathing before the drop-off or pick-up. When you arrive at the location, do so on time and without your phone on hand. If your ex becomes antagonistic during exchanges, do everything possible to remain calm. After all, you do not want your children witnessing their parents argue.
Using children as spies
You may feel curious about your ex’s new partner, especially if this new person spends a lot of time around your children. Refrain from asking your kids to spy on your ex or asking questions about your ex’s partner. You both have the right to move on with your lives, and you do not want your children to feel you do not take an interest in their lives.
You have more control than you think over post-divorce conflict. Arm yourself with knowledge, so you become an even better parent for your children