Getting divorced with children involved is very difficult. Particularly at the beginning of a divorce, you may need to be separate from your spouse to make good decisions. However, as a good parent, the needs of your children are at the forefront of your mind.
One solution for this is a “nesting” living situation. According to NBC, “nesting” can help provide much-needed stability to children while giving you breathing room.
What is “nesting?”
People call “nesting,” or “birdnesting” such because it mimics the movement of parent birds. That is, the baby birds stay in the same nest while the parents flit in and out, caring for them. This living arrangement involves the children remaining in the family home, but only one parent is in residence at a time.
This can give you some space to figure out your next steps. It will also keep the children safe and in a familiar environment.
How does it work?
In many cases, the “off-duty” parent will stay with friends or family. In more permanent nesting situations, often the parents will rent a studio apartment.
Nesting can last as long as you need it to last. In some cases, it is possible for nesting to last for years. However, this is more uncommon. Most of the time, the parents wish to establish their own living situations that are independent of the family home, and maintaining the family home for a long period of time is often cost-prohibitive.
Whether you nest for years or for a few weeks, it is a good method of getting space while also making your children’s welfare paramount.